Article: Recipe for Holiday Success

With the holidays just around the corner, invitations to gather with family and friends are already beginning to roll in.  And when you’re trying to eat well, avoiding certain ingredients and additives, it can be a bit stressful for both you and your host. But, it doesn’t have to be. 

Decades ago, when I first began changing my standard American diet (SAD) to more healthful fare, I was concerned that my choices would create extra work for my host. I didn’t want to be a bother or make anyone feel obligated to go out of their way to cater to my needs or desires. And, truth be told, on a deeper level, I also believed that I couldn’t trust anyone else to meet my needs. This concern was not unfounded, mind you, as previous experience had formed my belief.

My lack of trust provided a rich area for exploration. The “story” I told myself contained a cast of critical extended family members who didn’t “get” me. However, I later realized that they were actually holding up a mirror that reflected my own sense of unworthiness. Ouch. Don’t you just love those little gifts that are not only offered without the pretty packaging, but sometimes require digging through a pile of poop to get to?

Eventually, what I learned is that it’s always best to be honest and up-front with your host/hostess. Let them know that you have special dietary considerations and offer to bring a dish to contribute to the meal. That way there is sure to be something that you can enjoy too.

Another thing I’ve done is to eat just prior to the event. This is much easier to pull off if it’s buffet style and folks are wandering around with plates of food. They’ll be way too busy to consider whether or not you’ve eaten, and you can usually slip under the radar. You can bring along a few snacks and nibble as you please. Just don’t be surprised if some of the guests find themselves drawn to your plate of deliciousness and ask where you found the fruit salad or whatever goodies you happen to be munching on.

In the end it really comes down to pre-planning. That way you won’t find yourself mindlessly feasting on whatever happens to be around and regretting it later.

Whether you come to the party with a full belly, smuggle in your own personal snacks, or bring your own dish to share, enjoy your time with family and friends; the connection is what really matters!